The first time that I ever flew in an airplane, I was a tiny, crying infant with no idea what was going on, but I had my mom’s arms to fall asleep in. The second time that I flew in an airplane, I was a shy, awkward, and pretty freaked out eight year old, but I had my mom’s hand to hold on to. The third time that I flew in an airplane, I was a totally confused, still pretty awkward, and slightly freaked out eighteen year old, but this time I was leaving the country with no mom in sight.
This past week I accomplished a lot of “firsts”. I flew on an airplane alone for the first time and I left America for the first time. And I’m not going to lie about the fact that I was sorta, kinda, pretty much terrified.
I like to think that I’ve always been someone who at least pretends to be independent and tries to act like they know what they’re doing, but to be honest, I’ve always liked having a hand to hold. It’s comforting to be able to look up and know that there’s someone bigger than you who knows what they’re doing and can help you out. But then you turn eighteen and it seems like, BOOM, you are the bigger person and people are looking up to you and you’re stuck trying to hide the fact that you don’t know what the heck you’re doing.
And let’s face it, I never know what the heck I’m doing.
But I’ve discovered a secret that’s gotten me through life so far. And here it is: If you can pretend to you rock it, then you’re no longer pretending. This applies to pretty much everything in life including flying on airplanes, going to interviews, sporting bright red lipstick, chopping off all your hair, moving to a new city, etc. Basically, confidence is key. But because confidence can be tricky, faking confidence is the next best thing.
Doing anything outside of your comfort zone can definitely be freaky. On the inside you might be freaking out and experiencing something along the lines of an internal earthquake, BUT if you can stand up straight with your shoulders back and a smile on, then no one is going to have any clue about your slight nervous breakdown.
By portraying confidence on the outside, you might be surprised to find that your insides will follow. Pretending that you’re completely confident and have everything under control will usually calm down that inner earthquake inside of you and silence the worries in your mind to give you a chance to calm down and actually breathe. Also, pretending to rock everything will give off the vibe that you actually are rocking everything, and therefore, you should never question whether or not you can rock anything again. Because you totally can.
Fake it ‘till you make it.